The first few years of your child’s life are the formative years and proper child training is essential during this period. Establishing foundational behaviors, instilling good habits, and ensuring corrections are made where necessary, all these and more are important factors that constitute child training. Engaging proper upbringing for your child in turn culminates into parenting benefits in years to come.
Child training comes in different phases, from the time they are babies until they become teenagers and adults after that. We all want the best children and we want our kids to turn out as amazing teenagers and adults. Every parent wants their child to make good decisions and generally make the family proud. Truly, these days, accurate parenting information is hard to come by. Everyone wants to give their unsolicited opinion. With this in mind, this article is as honest as possible.
The major focus of child training and good parenting is to make the family unit very peaceful – you know children have the most uncontrollable tantrums. Training of a child is a long process and no parent can expect that after a year or some years of training, the job will be over. Bear in mind that child training is a journey and not exactly a destination.
Every parent should come to a point where they understand that there is no such thing as a perfect child. This way, you put yourself under less pressure and focus on bringing out the best in your child. Child training is a continuous process. If every parent would realize the importance of good training, and work accordingly, society would become transformed. Child care providers (be it parents, nanny, school teachers, etc.) have one of the most important jobs – the care and education of children during the most crucial early learning years – childhood.
To train a child is to provide the necessary guidance and discipline through awakening the positivity in their being and helping them develop it for good. As there is an expected result from any trainer or training, so must there be expectations. Without a doubt, child training takes its toll on you as a parent.
Your child learns most from what he or she sees and these make up his own experience. They are learning all the time even when you think they are not. In fact, the only time your child doesn’t learn is when he or she is sleeping. You will be glad you gave out your best and your time in bringing up your child many years from now.
These early years with our children should be about fostering, showing them love and care, to play, explore with and teach them. Also, it is important to note that our children are all different and gifted in unique ways. No one would argue that raising children of character demands time and effort.
In raising your child, you will need a lot of patience and listening ears you must be ready to put the child first. Let them enjoy you, let them know it is okay to make mistakes and be ready to gently pat them as you correct them. Do not forget they have their own emotions, intelligence, and an infant understanding and all these and more is what you are to tread gently as you tamper with. These are the only positive way toward progress; you must be a conscious parent around them. Make perfection the target but don’t worry about perfection from the start, just be consistent with them, possibly focusing on one wrong attitude at the time.
Tips for Effective Child Training
While having children may be doing what comes naturally, being a good parent is much more complicated. If you want to know how to raise a child, follow these steps:
- Social development.
- Personal development.
- Physical development.
- Preparation and Consistency.
Where there is no communication, there is no relationship. And when you do not have any relationship with your child, there is hardly a way your input will make much sense unless you are planning to raise a military scout. Show your child love in the words that you speak and the way you say them. Communication also involves your body language, don’t say one thing and your body language is interpreting something totally different. Let them be in sync. A kind of communication devoid of arguments,
Let them talk, obviously we know there is a certainty that what they say may be senseless sometimes yet you have got to listen so you can effectively make the right kind of input and correction. When you have this kind of communication with your child, it lets them know they can rely on you and can tell you anything. Sometimes, you just must listen.
Train your child to be equivalently social. The capacity for a child to be able to develop socially lies in the type of upbringing he or she has. Social development goes a long way to better the life of a child, this way he or she can be able to interact easily with other children, interact easily with familiar adults, participates in group activities
The child is able to quickly rise above the child mentality. Social development can quickly bring transformation to the life of a child. He or She learns quicker, challenges his or her challenges, learns, responds, and adapts quicker even in an unfamiliar environment. Notice children who have developed socially, we tend to call them young adults. Funny right?
Give your child a chance to try to be independent. You can help your child develop self-reliance. Give your child an opportunity to choose for themselves. You can help your child form their own opinion. You can try not treating your child like he or she is little all the time. When you let your child experience some level of personal development on his/her own there is this tendency towards positivity on his own.
Your child will begin to show eagerness to learn and deal with his curiosity, persistence in completing a task, and is willing to help you even when you didn’t ask – he wants to show off his level of efficiency. If your child is exposed to personal development, he develops a pleasant cooperative kind of personality.
This is the ability to be fit. Physical development is quite different from Personal development because where personal development can be traced to self-control and self-sufficiency, Physical development has to do with looking and acting smart. Give your child this privilege, it has much to do with physical and mental exercise. Your child can on his own be able to manage transitions (the ability to switch activities) and in each demonstrate normal activity level. If there is finance, get him some sporting equipment; football, bicycle, skipping ropes, toys, etc. Let the stress out much in their playtime to achieve a boost in their hormones, get their adrenaline pumping. Let them develop gross motor skills. No child in this physical release can ever be physically dull.
Since the above, we have been encouraging much freehand on and about your child and it seems we have forgotten about discipline, no! It is good to get them grace for a lot of self-reformation and freedom but let these be within the ‘right box.’ You are in charge. Never forget this. Place your child in a condition where he/she is nest free. Let him/her be aware of the limit you place, explain your rules and regulations very well so they can recognize and understand boundaries so they can keep their acts within the circle you have placed for them. And don’t forget that rules are sometimes meant to be broken and when they do, there will be serious repercussions.
You can explain the cause and effect on your child. They should know there will be consequences for breaking the hedge, for stepping out of dad’s/mom’s rules. Teach your child to take responsibility for his actions. This is an important part of disciplining your child and building his character.
Be careful to measure the weight of his offense, have a conversation with your child to know why he did what he did. Then if they deserve punishment, punish them with love, let him know fully well that he is serving this punishment because of the offense (be specific) he/she committed. You could deprive such an erring child of something he wants like his toy etc. Please do not deprive your child of food. It is very risky.
Preparation and Consistency
Make preparations! Remember the goal! It is unto maturity; Emotional, Physical, Mental, Social and Intellectual maturity. Be consistent with your plans and if need be, set time. Don’t make promises to them and forget to fulfill, don’t procrastinate unnecessarily. When an occasion demands it, you must not take them for granted; meekly explain to your child what happened and why it is important. They may not understand all that you have to say but there will be something sweet being registered in their heart. Be consistent with any of your personal preparation, let them not see that you are not serious with your personal commitment nor with a plan, you have with them.
Teach them attitude, teach them self-control, and teach them morals. Your child cries, he gets hungry, sad, and angry too. Teach them the right attitude during any of these times. Teach them respect, wise words, teach your child self-discipline, and never criticize their performance rather let them know they can do better.
Treat their mistakes as building blocks for learning more and be ready to open the door to new experiences for them. Give them new challenges yet you let them act their age. Let them figure out problems by themselves and encourage practice to build competence. Do not forget to appreciate their effort no matter whether they win or lose.
Give your child the right type of education is it formal or mental education. The level of education your child is exposed to can go a long way to make or mar their lives. Teach your child with good heroes’ features. Don’t compare them with other children but you can use other children as samples, mere road maps because when they begin to look up to a child, you are going to get twice a child. Know the teachers of your child. Know their friend, find out the type of education and information your child is sapping into himself daily. Cut him off the wrong channels and plug him/her to another right source. Education is not only in the classroom.
The guidance that a parent gives his child is vital for the progress of the child. Although the child may not appreciate it at the time, a loving parent knows that it is incumbent upon him to make his child learn from his own knowledge and experience. This enables the child to avoid the mistakes the parent may have made, and benefit from his wisdom.